Monday Dare (& Giveaway): Big Things Poppin’


Every week, I challenge myself to a Monday Dare. Click on the link to see the complete list of Monday Dares or to learn more about its origin.

This week: Think big. Follow through.

I’m not bogged down by trivial factors such as time or money or skill or reality when I’m setting bold plans for the future.

Every year between Christmas and New Year’s Eve, I budget ten or so minutes each day to think about the upcoming year. I sit on the pristine hardwood floor of my meditation room in an organic hemp tunic and spritz a little lavender water into the air before I close my eyes and focus on my breathing. Then, I unwrap a preserved cherry blossom branch from virgin wool and trace my intentions for the New Year in the air. The words may be invisible to the eye, but they are engraved onto my soul.

I have no idea what I just wrote, but clearly, my make-believe skills are off the chain.

Do I look like someone who would shell out for organic clothing? I AIN’T ABOUT THAT LIFE. I just mute the TV during commercial breaks and scribble some shit on the back of a Cap’n Crunch box.

I ping pong between big lofty goals and smaller doable ones. (Sidenote: I just spent seven minutes rooting around on Google to figure out if “ping pong” needed a hyphen, but it was all very confusing, so I finally said fuck it and gave up.)

Last year, my list looked something like this:

  1. Become a kinder, gentler, more compassionate person.
  2. Be the kind of mom Cal deserves.
  3. Be the kind of wife Harv deserves.
  4. Treat my physical body with care by working out daily and eating healthier.

By New Year’s Eve, I had revised the list a little:

  1. Become a kinder, gentler, more compassionate person
    Stop referring to everyone as “bitch”
  2. Be the kind of mom Cal deserves
    Pick Cal up from school on time every day once in a while
  3. Be the kind of wife Harv deserves
    Quit threatening to set Harv’s electronics on fire when he brings home the wrong flavor of Sun Chips
  4. Treat my physical body with care by working out daily and eating healthier
    Drink less soda once a month season

I didn’t fulfill a single goal. Failure was an eye-opener for me this year. I figured out that it doesn’t really matter how low I set the bar if I don’t have follow-through. I plan to THINK BIG for 2013. And I intend to do whatever the fuck it takes to taste success. I assume this is going to require hard work. I hate hard work. I hate breaking a sweat. I hate cuffed shorts. That doesn’t really fit, but I’m pretty passionate about cuffs.



I fucking love presents. Maybe you do too. To celebrate this holiday season, I’ll be doing a giveaway each week until the end of the year. Get connected on the Flourish in Progress Facebook page and on Instagram (username: flourishinprogress) for giveaway updates, not-seen-on-this-blog pictures, (t)hug life thoughts, and other random shit.

This week: Whatever Your Little Heart Desires (Um, under $50)


There’s a high likelihood that you’re not going to get everything you want on your Holiday Wish List. I’m not trying to be a Debbie Downer. I’m just trying to look out for your fragile little heart when you open up a hand-knit mug cozy instead of that diamond necklace you wanted.

Welp, I’m not going to give you a diamond necklace either, but if you’ve got something lingering on your Wish List ,and it costs less than $50, and it’s easy to purchase online, and it’s an actual item (not a gift card), then it’s yours.

TO ENTER: Leave a comment below with a hope/wish/goal for 2013. Only comments left on THIS POST qualify.

LAST WEEK’S BESOTTED CUSTOM STAMP WINNER: Brittany Rae (the word “peace” is in your email address) please email me at elizabeth at flourishinprogress dot com with your mailing address.

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  • Sarah Clark

    I don’t like the term resolutions..because those get broken. Almost like that’s the destiny of every resolution, so I want to try something different this year. Instead of making resolutions that will be broken 10 minutes after I make them, I would rather just make some promises to myself. While I don’t always, well ever, stick with my resolutions, I do keep my promises. So, this year I am promising myself to be better. I won’t hold grudges, I will be more willing to forgive those that wrong me (I won’t forget though), that doesn’t mean it’s all water under the bridge and we will be BFFs for life, but I won’t cut them when I see them. I am 26, and earlier this morning I had an epiphany, it’s probably time to grow mature. I am pretty sure this will be a turn in the right direction.

  • Jessica Webb

    Goals for 2013: accomplish 3 things on my bucket list, be nicer to me, follow through.

    To be fair my bucket list includes things like “ride a mechanical bull”. So I’m not exactly aiming for Nobel prize territory.

  • Rachel B

    I’m kinda against the whole resolution craze since everyone comes up with uttlerly insane resolutions that were meant to be broken. However, I have set a goal for myself to accomplish in 2013 and that is to create a healthy and happy work/life balance. Basically dial back on the work hours and go out and enjoy life with friends and family. I can’t see how I can fail!

  • mommyonthespot

    Meditation because it makes me feel centered. Going to try and norm power through due to a surplus in stomach acid.

    That and go to the movies to see what *i*want to see!

  • Stella A

    I hope for momentum in 2013 to do, be, and accomplish whatever my heart desires. If I gave half the energy and passion to myself that I give to everyone else, I’ll have an AMAZING year.

  • Justine Hernandez Levine

    I have a hope/wish/goal: employment. The kind that actually brings in some income. Maybe I can pick up some of Rachel B’s hours? ;)

    • April

      That would be great. I too wish for one that wasnt in a hostile degrading place of employment!

  • LA

    A wish for you… great things for you in the new year. A wish for me? A baby. Just one. Don’t need septocttripuplets. Just one would be fine.

  • Reed Counts

    Goals for 2013: Get my shit together! I’ve never been so nervous and excited about graduating with my B.Arch, but I need to find a mediocre job that keeps the government off my back, stop eating microwavable meals that decrease my life expectancy by each bite, and just seek happiness in creating a life outside of academia.

    Oh yeah, and a greek god body. I want everyone to be like, “DAYUMMMM”. Emphasis on the yum.

  • chooobee

    My hope/wish/goal for the new year: Put in some serious time restoring my VW, spending time with my family, spend less time thinking about work and fine a job that I can be happy in.

  • heidi

    i have a goal to make more friends in 2013!!!

    • April

      I hear you on this one.

  • Skye

    The last 3 years have been quite stressful mainly due to things beyond my control. Including the loss of my mom and feeling guilty about that as I was not there for her when she died. So my 2013 goal is to manage stress better as I now have anxiety from it all!

  • Are You Kidding Me?

    I don’t do goals. My only hope is that people stop acting like assholes this year. I suspect I will be disappointed. Oh well, life is good anyway. Happy Holidays!

  • Heather Watson

    Ok so im pretty sure I have 5 gifts under the tree with my name on them, and my husband has none. In my defense he bought himself a shotgun and got his new car windows tinted so he told me not to bother with anymore gifts…but there was a hint of disappointment in his eyes when he realized that I really hadnt “bothered”. So my 2013 goal is to be less of a selfish bitch and be a better gift giver.

  • Dennis

    My goal is that I want to get the girl I’ve been *crushing on for the past two years. *stalking. Her husband just went to prison so I think I’m a shoe in. (I also looked up shoe in on Google for hyphen but gave up after it autocorrected.) Also it’d be nice if I could stop busting out weapons when people spell you’re in the wrong context. “I didn’t choose thug life, thug life chose me”-2pac said that shit best yo. Sidenote there’s a Shoe In in Las Vegas for your shoe needs. Thanks Google.

  • Sheilly Banerjee

    My goal for this year is to get a great grade in my genetics class, and prove that I belong in the academic world, and not do some lowly job. :)

  • Alison

    I hope to make it to BlogHer next year. $50 cash would help the kitty towards Chicago. You gonna be there?

    In other news, I’m coveting some books. Any book. I need to feel real (reading books make me feel real).

    Merry Christmas!

  • Karen

    I want to control my temper and not scream at my kids for every little thing. I also would like to limit soda to one supersize fountain sodas a day.

  • Jennifer June Clark

    I just want the will/energy/give-a-shit to treat my body better. If I can stick to that, I will be able to wear a swimsuit in public and NOT be mortified next summer in Europe. But it’s hard to focus on long-term goals when you’re in the trenches with small children. Please wish me luck!

  • Leelee

    My wish would be to finally figure out how to study for math tests.

  • Lillian

    I hope to look more to the good and the positive in things both little and big this year. Attitude seems to be the answer to life that I hadn’t figured out until now.

  • brittany rae

    Ok seriously my puppy and I are here only Christmas morning and I hopped onto here to read your dare. I loved that stamp and when you said it was me I said I won I won I won !!! Thank you and emailing you now!

  • Courtney Thompson Gerlach

    Wake up every morning, breathing

  • Heather

    I’m looking forward to working! Been a stay-home mom and I’m feeling a lil cray-cray. Hyphen, FTW!

  • Dayna Veach

    I want to have more sex. With whoever, but my husband will do nicely. The hormones don’t rage as fast as they used to now that 40 is imminent, and it’s too easy to sit on my ass all night because relaxing it easier. I need to put the nightie on, do a flip ‘n’ twirl, and let the rest take care of itself. I’ve only been married 6 months, seriously, body?

  • Misty

    Hold up, Ho. You’re telling me that if I tell you something I want for 2013, I’ll get anything my little heart desires? Damn bitch, you one generous chica. I knew there was a reason I loved you so much.

    I tried that kinder and gentler Misty shit last year. It didn’t last very long. I guess my wish is for a change in the job situation, hopefully for the better. This misery can’t last for very much longer.

    Merry Merry to you and your fam!! I sent you something. Hopefully you received it. I know how jacked your mail delivery can be.

  • Carly Moorehead

    Hm, one of my goals for the next year is to become more self sufficient. I just bought a house with my fiance this October and I want to be able to do things to get it fixed up on my own and not need help with everything.

  • unitedstatesofbecky

    Holy balls that is a nice giveaway. On my resolutions, I tend to fail early and often. And what is my wish/goal for 2013? To stay on top of the house cleaning and laundry. I tend to do what I feel like when I feel like as opposed to actually doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done. Hope you guys had a great holiday.

  • Abigail

    I hope to eat healthier and exercise more. I’m forcing myself to realize that I can’t live off of dirt cheap frozen pizzas alone unfortunately. Love your blog :)

  • Angie Uncovered

    I’m not going to yell at myself about losing that last 10 pounds anymore. It’s starting to scare the kids and sometimes people in the changing room next to me. Also, 2013 is going to be about remembering not to use 2012 on documents. Pray for me. It’s going to be difficult.

  • mike

    My goa is to save more money. Which always seems so much harder then it should be.

  • dutchess_gummybuns

    I’ll just be ecstatic to make it through the year with my brain still in tact, this nursing school stuff is no joke! Especially with a 7 year old, 2 jobs, and an attempt at a boyfriend. I mean I’d love to win the lottery, but that would require me to spend money and I’m really not okay with chancing the fact that I might lose $3!

  • Maggie Hernandez

    My goals for 2013; Keep my house clean, keep up with the laundry and don’t stress myself out too much. Of course also get back to working out every day. Just a few of my goals.

  • Thoughtsy Appear

    There’s a wrong flavor of Sun Chips?

  • Leslie

    My wish for the new year is for my husband to find peace and happiness in whatever he chooses to do (he’s had a really tough 2012).

  • Roller Scrapper

    My wish/hope is to have another baby. Hopefully I’m not crazy for wanting 2 kids under 2 :)

  • Kayla Evans

    My goal is to not die when I go on my first backpacking/snowshoeing adventure in February.

    My wish is that my husband will find true peace with a recent loss we had in 2012.

    My hope is God will finally decide it’s the right time to let our family expand into that of 3 humans instead of 2.

    If I actually made a resolution, I’d just be setting myself up for failure.

    And I totally feel ya on the ping-pong hyphen thing……… (I just hyphenated it to see how it felt. I think I like it.)

  • Tara Dimitros

    My goal this year is to take better care of myself. I’m not even talking diet and exercise, I just really would like to wake up early enough once a week to have time to shower/brush my teeth/not look like a bag lady when I arrive at work. Also, my dad and husband are both way into Harleys which means I got a lot of HD apparel for Christmas which would be cool except I do not have a bike, nor do i want to wander around town looking like I just stepped off the set of Sons of Anarchy. SO, my back up wish is that my husband remembers that I am totally a bad ass, but I like to hide that under mint skinny jeans, a navy cardigan, and fake pearls.

  • Adrienne Henderson

    My goal is to spend more of my money on myself and less on people who don’t appreciate me like I do all year long. I deserve presents under the tree just like everyone else but I always get overlooked. Not in 2013. Even if I have to buy the presents myself :)

    I would really like Jenny Lawson’s book “Let’s pertend this never happened”. That isn’t $50 but I don’t need the whole amount :)

  • Elizabeth Barnes

    I want to work on my financial life (which is an absolute mess), find a workout that I can actually stick with, and move in with my boyfriend successfully (ie. without either of us going insane and/or regretting it). And maybe if there’s time I’ll work on world peace or something.

  • steph

    I’m just wishing that I can benicer to others LOL. Easy peasy. Kinda hard, but I’ll try

  • Su

    Follow through is something that I’m really trying to do as well..!! That’s a huge issue for me, but there are other goals/wishes/hopes I’d like to mention in this comment. I hope that I can figure out what I want to do in my life! I hope that I can finally move forward and move on and finish school. I hope that I can stop procrastinating so much and just get the deeds done. I hope that I can stop caring so much about what other people think. I hope to be happy with who I am and not ashamed because it feels pretty crappy to feel inadequate. I could go on, but wow, you’ve like opened up a box of unspoken goals for me. It is clear that I have much work to do!

  • GoNad

    My goals are to eat healthier and exercise everyday, and have a more positive outlook on life and the people that surround me.

  • Laura H

    2012 has been the weirdest and most wonderful year of my whole fucking life but I think the goodbyes outnumbered the hellos and I decided last night that this year will have more hellos. Goodbyes suck donkeydick, even if you’re the one saying it.

  • Teri champion

    My goal is to actually pass my anger management classes and not make fun of the other bipolar folks in my mental health wellness sessions! Just sayin

  • Jennifer Folmar

    Well, my goal for dressing better went over well in 2012. I managed to not leave my house looking like a hobo on my days off and to make a better effort on “just because” occasions. This year, I need to get off my flabby butt and work out more. Thankfully, my honey is in the same boat and he’s one of those guys who actually gives a shit when he says he wants to do something, so maybe it’ll happen for real. I also want to bust out of my funk and be happier in general.

  • Cyndy DysFUNctional Mom

    My goal is pretty much if 2013 isn’t better than 2012 I’m DONE. Just DONE.
    I do’nt suppose you can get a digi camera under $50? Eh, I’ll think of something.

  • Candice Franklin

    it may possibly not be too late….. and i didnt get my necklace I wanted from Etsy…. :)

  • Emm

    My hope/wish is that my family stay healthy and happy in 2013.

  • Amber Holt

    It’s rather hard to narrow it down to one. I guess I’m gonna have to work to be healthier.